The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships by Joshua Shea


"I look back on the way I was and the person I see reminds me of the bad guy characters in professional wrestling. The heel, as they are called in wrestling jargon, is most effective when he doesn’t recognize that he’s the bad guy in the situation."

4 Stars: Losing Grace

Joshua Shea has written an honest and very detail memoir that leads to a challenging topic of addiction, a few mistakes in life can ruin us and everything falls apart. "The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships " for me is a therapeutic memoir with Joshua's words you can feel the shame and regret.

A once respected member of his community, a businessman setting up magazines to enhance is hometown which you can learn the process of setting your magazine from reading Joshua's book. Joshua's also hosted film festivals and dabbled in local politics. On the outside, Joshua seemed to have it all or least have a life of pursuits. As I was reading this book, I researched Joshua Shea and came away from that he is telling his side of the story which is fair. We often watch the news and see someone who is a pillar of their community arrested, in this instance for "Child Pornography," and think "good I hope bad things happen to that person"; I am guilty of this myself. We write people off because of the nature of the crime we have become a less forgiving society. Honestly, are we being fair? Joshua's addictions are plentiful alcohol, work, and pornography and on top of his struggles, he deals with being bipolar. One lesson you can take away from this memoir, get help before it falls apart. Joshua's book immerses in explaining without excusing (there's a difference ) his life of stress, mental issues, trying to keep it all together for the sake of himself and family.

Thankfully this book is not a seedy stroll down memory lane, but I find parts of the book takes away from what he wants to tell us about the addiction to pornography which makes me question the title of the book. Is Joshua holding back is what I asked myself and honestly, I don't know. Maybe we have too many expectations from writers to set things up or expand on themes that we can grasp without too much thinking. In the end, the book holds up and makes for good reading with life lessons.

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